Here I am again working on my goal of recording my personal history for the year.
This week's question: What qualities in friends do you most admire?
I've really had to give this one some thought! I've looked back at past friends and current friends. I think the quality most of them has had in common is bravery. I have a hard time being brave and I've tended to choose friends who are super confident and not afraid to try new things to help me do the same. It's always good to reach outside of your comfort zone and I've appreciated my friends who aren't afraid to get me to do that. :)
I also look for friends who value kindness as I do. There's always room for kindness. Some of my friends haven't been as kind and that brought out a side that I didn't like in myself; causing me to treat others unkindly. This was in my childhood years, of course, and I've tried my hardest to rectify the unkind things I did to the best of my ability. :) In my adulthood I've had some friends, one in particular, who valued honesty above kindness, what she called brutal honesty, to a fault. She felt it was her duty to tell me some things that were very unkind and it hurt my heart so much. I still struggle with that and needless to say, that particular friend is no longer a friend. I need kindness more than brutal honesty. Besides the things she felt were so pressing to tell me were only her own opinion and not the truth.
Today we watched the new Cinderella movie as a family and the main motto of Cinderella is to, "have courage and be kind." Funny. Those are two things that I value most in a friendship! :)
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